Wednesday, 30 April 2014

DIY Judaism and Why we Actually do Need a Few Rabbis*


Some shuls (synagogues) have one and some have a whole faculty. Other shuls deliberately choose to have none. Rabbinic seminaries are churning out a steady stream of rabbis each year, but do we actually need any of them? 
 
I was ordained as an orthodox rabbi, in Israel in 2003. It was the best of times and the worst of times, but I loved it. Though I’ve moved away from that younger me, it helped make me into who I am today. My beliefs and outlook are now far removed from the passionate modern orthodoxy of my yeshiva days but I’ll probably never truly loose much of what my intensive yeshiva education gave me. At yeshiva (In those days, I never really viewed myself as a trainee rabbi, but more as an aspiring talmudic scholar and teacher. I therefore always refer to my rabbinic seminary as a ‘yeshiva’) I had personal ups and downs and the trauma of living in the West bank during the second intifada. The fear of violence was almost constantly humming in the background. I was near suicide bombs on two occasions and as a yeshiva, we felt the collective trauma of our teacher, Rabbi Brovender, being kidnapped and beaten (close to death) by Palestinian Policemen.

Putting aside those aspects, I loved my years living in a Torah learning intellectual bubble. When you measure a bad day as one in which you didn’t fully get ‘pshat’(the correct explanation) in gemara (talmud) class, you know that in a cozy ivory tower you surely dwell.


The Director of Studies of a well known rabbinical school recently told me that, at his school, their programme’s aim was the ‘creation of a rabbi’. According to the Torah, God, in His efficiency, took just a week to create our majestically diverse and beautiful world. A fully formed rabbi, with pastoral and homiletic skills, I guess takes a little longer. Joking aside, why do we need rabbis? Is it not more empowering to educate Jews to look after their own spiritual lives, unmediated by clergy?

In Hasidic communities, the rebbe or Zaddiq and increasingly in modern yeshivot, the rabbi or ‘Rosh Yeshivah’ (academy head) is viewed as a way to connect to heaven. Rabbi Yitzhak Hutner, a twentieth century Haredi (Ultraorthodox, Lithuanian, non-Hasidic) yeshiva head exemplified this paternalistic idea of rabbi as spiritual mediator and heaven’s representative or spokesman on earth. Hutner’s students would not just ask his opinion about small things like for whom to vote in elections, they would sometimes decide who to marry based on his nod. His charisma and authority was so powerful that students would tell him their personal news before thinking to pick up the phone to call their biological parents. This authority on topics or knowledge of the world beyond Halacha (Jewish Law) or talmudic scholarship is often referred to as Daat Torah (normally said with the Ashkenazi Hebrew pronunciation - Daas Torah - meaning the authentic Torah view/outlook). 

Scholars such as Lawrence Kaplan have written about Daat Torah’s historical origins and modern impact. To have ‘Daat Torah’, in short, is to be a man (women would be excluded automatically) with tremendous in-depth intimacy with Torah, meaning the Talmud and all of Jewish law, which is viewed as the mind of God. This in depth knowledge transforms the individual, giving him an ability to know exactly what God wants elsewhere in life, beyond the law. Like the Hasidic Rebbe who connects you to heaven, the Rosh Yeshivah (Head of Talmudic College) now is also your only true authority on history, politics and even love and relationships. Anyone else cannot really know the truth fully, since they don’t have Daat Torah. Other opinions are disqualified. Indeed Rabbi Hutner, in his writings discusses, often in poetic beauty, rabbinic authority. Hutner leaves the uncritical reader, who has no sense of the history of ideas, to conclude that Daat Torah is indeed a fundamental principle inseparable from all of Jewish thought, despite its relatively recent borrowing from the Hasidic world. A deeper discussion of both Daat Torah and Rabbi Hutner I shall leave for another time.

As a Modern Orthodox Jew, I never fully bought into this Daat Torah idea and I was taught by rabbis who didn’t really either. (I do though have to thank them for many things, including introducing me to the thought of Hutner, over whose words I have labored many hours). However, I invite you to look around Anglo Jewry. How many UK rabbis consciously or subconsciously believe that his/her congregation should do as they say simply because, as a rabbi, they somehow magically know better? Rabbis often feel that status or title alone should create authority, irrelevant of intelligence, people skills or if they actually have anything interesting to say. Not only is this patronizing, it infantilises congregants. It turns spirituality from something real and personal into something mediated through the clergy, the establishment, through official religion.


What about, what Rabbi Eli Kaunfer refers to as “empowered Judaism”? Or DIY Judaism, meaning, doing it yourself?

Let’s be honest, you don’t need a rabbi to have a Bar Mitzvah, officiate at a funeral, have prayers at a shiva house (house of mourning ), to get married, lead services, read the Torah or even teach Torah. Indeed, as Jay Michaelson points out, Jews who don’t regularly attend a synagogue may often only meet their congregational rabbi at funerals. Why would we ask the rabbi to officiate at a funeral of someone he hardly knew? Would it not be more personal and meaningful and even respectful to the deceased to have a loved one officiate at the funeral instead?

DIY Judaism means that you take ownership of your Judaism, taking ownership of your rituals and observance. You can decide how to do your marriage. You can actually decide which passages are meaningful for you to be said at your shiva house. You can decide the format and content of your child’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah. In a progressive Jewish community, the role of the individual can be so much more than we currently expect it to be. In an orthodox community, there is more scope for personal choice than many realise. Orthodox Jews, your relationship with God need not always be mediated through clergy. Progressive Jews, your relationship with God is yours to create, every minute of the day.

Of course it’s not that simple. As Michaelson himself points out, writing your own Ketubah (marriage contract) or sheva brachot (wedding blessings) takes time, skill and education. Why bother doing it yourself, why reinvent the wheel, just use what we already have, I hear you ask? But being real and making things personal and genuine expressions of who you are and what you love and care about, will always take time. But it will be worth it. Being a consumer of other people’s products may save you time and sometimes that’s good. But answering God’s call to partner Him in creation is our Jewish duty.  Relying on others can feel disempowering, boring and uninspiring.


If you can DIY and create your own Judaism, what is the role of the communal rabbi?

We have created a professional Jew, and s/he is called a congregational rabbi. S/he has a contract, a pension, and (hopefully) a job description. All these things are actually good. Professionalism is important and leads to accountability and boundaries around expectations. Yet rabbi as ‘employee’ also has its problems. It can be disempowering for the rabbi, who, like a politician just before an upcoming election, has to pander and please her/his line manager, the synagogue board or denominational leadership before s/he can please God. It can be disempowering for congregants who rely on the rabbi to run their community. The synagogue gets turned into more of a clergy run community centre for rabbi led events rather than an empowered community run by its members.

Congregational rabbis often setup things so they are serving the average, or often lowest common denominator congregant’s needs. It’s normally the more committed who wish to take an active role in their own Judaism – to DIY it. But why can’t we educate everyone to take hold of their own practice and Judaism, rather than expecting the synagogue or rabbi to take care of it for them? Of course, not everyone has the time or inclination to do it themselves. But shouldn’t we offer it to everyone as a real possibility?

For most of our congregations, our overworked rabbis are our salaried employees. We expect them to provide us with life cycle events. Is this not a little like how many Catholics view the parish priest? Meaning that many Jews see their lifecycle needs as the responsibility of the rabbi, not their own. The rabbi happily (or unhappily) officiates at everyone’s weddings and Bar Mitzvahs in the hope that the sacred space created, may inspire those involved to investigate spirituality more closely.

Back to DIY. Many Jews are educated, but even educated Jews need a ‘consultant’ about how to ‘do’ Jewish practice. Rabbis can be our spiritual consultants. Rabbis can help you create your own rituals or help you decide how Jewish tradition works or is applicable as regards whatever it is you have going on at present. 

Rabbis can and should empower you through education to make your own choices, rather than dictating what they consider to be the ‘right thing’ to do. How uplifted your local rabbi would feel if you called up to ask about guidance on creating a ritual or writing a blessing following a happy occasion or important event. That’s taking your Judaism and making it personal and meaningful. The rabbi in this sense can help you DIY, do it yourself.

Rabbis are also, what I would like to call “conveners of sacred space”. There are of course, some places where we more naturally feel God, spirituality, presence, being, oneness or however you wish to refer to that feeling of being somewhere spiritual. For you it might be the desert, on top of a mountain, in silent meditation or in prayer, with family, in a synagogue or in the maternity ward surrounded by newly created life. Some places we actively create as sacred space. Some, like the biblical burning bush, we chance upon whilst we walk along the way doing other things.

Rabbis should teach Torah and inspire activism as regards relevant political or societal issues, from poverty to discrimination, from crime to disease. That is all important but, personally I believe that the main role of a rabbi today is to facilitate the creation of sacred space. I hope that rabbis or clergy reading this know what I mean when I say that.

I feel that I have done this many times. It is saying a prayer before a business meeting, it is visiting the sick and being present enough to show real empathy, it is sharing words of Torah that inspire. Yes, anyone can do this but only really rabbis focus on it as their lifelong calling. I have worked in hospice chaplaincy. It was in that context that I really noticed and thought about this role of a “convener of sacred space”. Imagine the scene – crying or anxious relatives by the bedside of a patient. As chaplain, I needed to ‘hold the space’ for all present. ‘Holding space’ or creating space, gives an invitation for all who wish to do so, to express what they felt and needed at that time. Death and illness, times of fear and anxiety, just like times of love and joy, are exactly when our spiritual selves come out and ask to be recognised and expressed. It’s when we turn inwardly to ourselves or outwardly towards the universe, looking for support. We need a space in which to do that. For some that may be through prayer or study, for others through talking and sharing and for others through silence. Silence is often the most sacred of all.

Sacred space doesn’t normally appear without preparation, it needs to be created. It takes skill and insight, humility and maturity. I would compare this understanding of the rabbi’s role to the therapeutic space a good therapist creates with a client. The space of trust between therapist and client is, in a real sense, a sacred one. You can’t really point to that space, but you certainly quickly notice when it’s gone. The client no longer feels safe to share his/her inner world. Good rabbis create that space too, and perhaps that’s why many clued-in people get that being a rabbi is more than just delivering a witty sermon.


What is sacred space? 

Sacred space is the creation of possibilities, a blank supportive canvas that allows the congregation to feel that they are legitimate, deserving, whole and good, never to be belittled or patronised. Sacred space is an opening, an invitation for you to freely express and explore your spiritual self, supported, and loved, without guilt, shame or fear. This, to me is about spiritual empowerment. A rabbi when acting as a “convener of sacred space”, as a true spiritual leader, will never dictate what you should or should not do. S/he will always look to you, a unique individual, for guidance on what spirituality means at that moment for you. 

You don’t need a rabbi to become Bar Mitzvah and I would suggest that you don’t need a rabbi to tell you what does or does not constitute rest on Shabbat. You can research or sort those things out for yourself and no one need come between you and God. Yes, I get that this DIY approach is not for all and of course your decisions and choices are always to be the guide.

We need to train and inspire rabbis to be our spiritual leaders, to be facilitators of spirituality for our communities. Whether a rabbinic programme can actually create a rabbi, fully formed and ready for action, we can discuss at greater length. For now let’s just say that my yardstick of whether a rabbi is worthy of the title is whether s/he has the skills to facilitate the spiritual experiences of themselves and others. 

Is your rabbi a “convener of sacred space”, able to create and hold spiritual space? Does your congregation feel empowered and supported to really be themselves in their relationship with God and Judaism?







 

* My thoughts flow, reflect and build upon an article, published in The Forward, by Jay Michaelson (see: http://www.jaymichaelson.net/20110908/). I would direct you to that article and the readers’ comments as well.